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To my friends on the spectrum, let me explain to you an unspoken social rule that possibly nobody has ever explained to you before

[lierdumoa]

If a neurotypical asks you, “What game are you playing?” they’re not asking you to describe the game.

They’re asking you if they can play too.

If a neurotypical asks you, “What are you watching?” they’re not asking you to explain the plot of the movie/tv show to them.

They’re asking if they can watch it with you.

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When neurotypicals ask you “What are you doing?” 

• What you think they’re asking: “Please explain to me what you are doing.” 
  
• What they’re actually asking:  “Can I join you?”
  

Now here’s the really fucked up part. If you start explaining to them what you’re doing? They will interpret that as a rejection. 

• What you think you’re saying: [the answer to their question]
  
• What they think you’re saying: This is an elite and exclusive activity for a level 5 friend and you are a level 1 acquaintance. You are not qualified to join me because you don’t know all this stuff. Go away.
  

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This is why neurotypicals think you’re being cold and antisocial.

IT’S ALL A HORRIBLE MISCOMMUNICATION.

[bonehandledknife]

I didn’t realize, even thought it took me almost three decades to learn this, that this was such a paradigm changing realization until we had our conversation today.

But it really really is. One of the most bewildering realizations I’ve had is most people don’t talk to learn things unless its related to work or directly towards their own hobbies, all the words and questions are bonding questions if done socially. They are “lets make friends” questions.

So if I answer their question without an opportunity for the person asking the question to give a response or to join in somehow, the asker feels alienated and starts shutting down.

Example: what are you reading?

True answer but not what they’re looking for: Title of book

Best answer for social scenarios where I want to retain/create friendship: This book is about x and y but it has z that i know u have an interest in too.

Example: what are you doing?

True answer but not: drawing

Best answer for friends: I’m drawing but would u like company while I’m working?

And sometimes frankly I’m not in a headspace where I can process people so the answer is something like, “I would like to do something in a day or later, do you want to plan something?”

Tldr: communication is wierd

[survivablyso]

HOLY

SHIT

that explains so fucking much thank you

(why the fuck do neurotypicals never just day what they mean ie hey this show looks cool mind if I join you)

[bonehandledknife]

Further annoying?

They don’t realize that’s what they’re asking and they just feel rejected and go away. So you can’t even ask them what you did wrong because they can’t even put a finger on why they feel the way they do they just know you made them feel bad for some undefined reason.

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[thesorrow]

my gf asked me to put her canned oranges in a bowl with some ice and all i hear was “could you get me an orange with like 2 ice cubes in a bowl” so i. brought her that

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[miss-azura]

i want this on a shirt

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[nicecream]

friendship paper

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[hte-spagheti]

im so used to this picture having really low quality seeing it like this is uncomfortable, it feels wrong

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[caramelkeks]

“This road never looked so lonely.”

comic collab between me and my wonderful friend natayaz !!
she did the amazing lines and i did the sketch and coloring

all single pictures under the cut~

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[tofuvi]

a nap.

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[kada-bura]

💮💮💮

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[corycat90]

i havent animated in literally forever im so sorry

lunar cycle umbreon lol

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[gym-leader-burgh]

this is the shiny insect badge of luck. reblog for shiny luck in whatever version you are playing

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[snakegay]

i call all my friends after 20 years of no contact and invite them to visit me at my house, which is a farm in the middle of nowhere. they approach the farm gates and i appear looking like this

[sneeking]

..go on…….

[snakegay]

i lead you into the barn where i live and offer you snacks and refreshments. it’s a bowl of minnows and 3 caprisun pouches

[gayscreaming]

accept the capri sun, cautiously refuse the minnows

[snakegay]

i tell you that it’s fine, leaves more for me, but you can tell im a little hurt. we watch cutthroat kitchen in silence, i seem to be attempting to drink my caprisun through my gas mask, but im failing miserably. you say nothing.

[gayscreaming]

i say nothing

[snakegay]

at one point i go into a shed and bring out more caprisun pouches and a single triscuit for you

[gayscreaming]

Thanks

[snakegay]

youre welcome